A fact about our existence recently dawned on me. Why is it we can only enjoy things to the fullest for a short time? Why does passion die and interest wane?? As human beings, we get excited about new things, and for a while maintain that enthusiasm, but after a few weeks, months, years, we become dissatisfied or take it for granted.
I find this is true for new toys, foods, jobs and relationships. Our senses do this too. When you smell a sweet fragrance for the first time- it's great, but after using the same perfume for years, you get used to the smell and it is no longer stimulating- thus we have dear little ladies with overbearing perfume. Perhaps they can no longer smell it without heavy usage? When I first started working on farms as a girl, the smell of animal waste was overwhelming, but eventually I got used to it and it didn't bother me at all. When I first started eating Mexican food, I could only eat really mild. Now, I'm able to eat hotter, but even that is getting tame. YIKES!
This same principle applies to the best hit TV shows which only run for so long. MASH and Friends being two of the top running series, but they, like everything else, eventually stopped drawing an audience. Wildly popular musicians eventually become 'has beens'. Trends change from generation to generation. Why do good things fade because of eventual lack of interest? What is it that turns fiery newlyweds into old bored folks sleeping in separate beds? Can you think of any exceptions?? Definitely aging and maturity have something to do with it. So is this a flaw in our characters or a blessing to our progression in life?
I wonder why this is the way we humans are? Is there any way to change it??
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Those are great questions and I don't really have an answer except maybe because we grow?
It's not so much that we get bored with things as it is that we find new things to be interested in.
What if we all were still using bonfires to communicate? What if we were driving horse-and-buggies on muddy rutted streets. I guess it's the price of progress.
Marriage is the one place where that theory doesn't work. Or maybe it does - I don't think anyone wants to keep the early passion going for decades - so our relationships do grow into new places. Some people see that as a bad thing but I think it's got it's benefits.
In some ways I really like the fact that this one area of my life never changes - that I will always be married to the same person - no matter where we live or what is going on in life. It makes all the changes that go on around us a little easier. There's something good to be said for boring.
My $.02
Hi Lily, good thoughts. It just never ceases to amaze me how quickly my children get tired of things. Puppies are fun for a few weeks, then the kids resent them because they are too much work, etc. I was thinking about this in regards to my children, but then I realized that we are all that way to some extent... interesting... :o)
HI Trailady,
Its long time that I havent visited ur blog or even coz of few reasons n still i m having prob. in publishing posts at my own blog :(
Anyhow its always been great to read you my dear friend, after reading ur posts i always got a feeling that our thinking n maby be many confussions n questions in mind r same :)
Well very true u stated and valid questions u highlighted in ur this post friend, i have thought of the reasons several times separately in the case or relationships n than other things in life like food, tv programs, clothes, n other such stuff and reason that i got of all these changes is that we all need a change with time, we all do get bored with things after a time period n start taking them forgranted n want them to b changed or replaced. But dear friend its really hurting in case of relationships, if relationships r been taking forgranted or people got changed after a time period especially in spouse relationship. I m not into this relationship yet but i know the fact n that always make me scared that ambitions n charm gonna b for time being n than things will b changed... anyhow i guess i m taking the topic in other means so i better stop here :)
Its truely been lovely to read u n write something here. Hope everything is good at ur side.
Best regards,
samrina
Interesting questions, but I'm not sure that the reason we get bored is maturity, I think a lot of it is that we've been sold a bill of good that tells us what's new is always better and because of those interested in moving the economy forward at faster rates make us think we've got to keep on striving for newer/better instead of enjoying the natural cycles of life.
The only example I can think of is friends. We have friends sometimes for years, decades, even more. My bestest bestest friend in the whole world, Nikki, and I have been friends since 8th grade, from day one. 22 years ago. She never grows old or boring to me. Just more precious. Good friends never grow old, they just grow deeper. The more the history you have, the stronger the friendship.(Besides, they usually have way too much they can black mail you with, lol.)
Seriously though, I guess this is why it is important to be above anything else friends with your spouse and your children. The new excitement will change over time, but the friendship will only get deeper, if it IS a friendship. If it is nourished and cared for.
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